Busy women
are always striving for improvement, better achievements and new challenges.
Needless to say that, even if it feels good in the short run (an adrenalin rush) and this is how high achieving women are who they are, in a long run it leads to burnout, destroys your health, ages you prematurely and prompts stress eat.
Needless to say that, even if it feels good in the short run (an adrenalin rush) and this is how high achieving women are who they are, in a long run it leads to burnout, destroys your health, ages you prematurely and prompts stress eat.
Bad
must become good, the weak strong, and the incompetent competent, the boring
charming?
Have you caught yourself thinking that your purpose of life is to measure up to the ideals YOU or somebody else invented? This kind of life approach might be very stressful.
Have you caught yourself thinking that your purpose of life is to measure up to the ideals YOU or somebody else invented? This kind of life approach might be very stressful.
Are
you convinced that nowadays in a highly competitive workplace the only way to
reach your objectives is to play the “trying to change myself” game? If so, it
becomes very hard to see that you are good enough, talented, beautiful and …
(you fill in the blank) and you can enjoy the present exactly the way it is!
RIGHT NOW!
Have
you noticed how perfect your present is? Maybe it’s not the optimum, but it is
perfect to learn from and perfect to grow from.
Being in sync with your present is just about the best way to optimize your future.
Being in sync with your present is just about the best way to optimize your future.
The
following is an except from The Inner Game of Stress by Timothy Gallwey and shows his talk with
God:
“God was saying, “How long did we spend making this planet, Earth – several billion years, wasn’t it? And how long did it take to evolve the human body? Millions and millions years, as I remember. We put a lot into it.” Then looking at me, God said, “We gave you one of those human bodies. Not a bat, or a worm, or hippopotamus, but a top-of-the-line body to live life on a top-of-the-line planet with other human beings.” Then came a big question:” So, how did you like it? And what did you like most?”
I heard myself replying, “How did I like it? I really didn’t have time to enjoy it that much. I was too busy fixing the world and fixing myself to merely enjoy it.”
As
simple as this truth is it was a powerful reminder in the midst of my own daily
stress in striving to be different and rushing to plan future instead of
enjoying the present: Have I missed the whole point of the gift? Do I have
time to enjoy a gift called life that was given to me, or even worse – have I
ever unwrapped the package?
In
the end, life is about unwrapping and enjoying the gift of life. Endeavor can
be quite difficult, even impossible when stress mounts up and becomes a chronic
companion in our lives. Although enjoying the gift is the most natural thing in
the world.
You
and I, at the moment we were born got amazing potential for joy, freedom, and
limitless other abilities. All we are asked to do is to use and enjoy the gift.
Only by relaxing into full acceptance of the present (and full
acceptance of you being the way you are right now) you can start seeing
clearly. When you
relax, you go with the flow and keep a beginners mind, you notice that all
the clues for attracting whatever you were striving for (stressing, beating
yourself up) are really staring back at you. The challenge is to keep
your eyes open and remain bright, calm, and nonjudgmental.
Don’t
beat yourself up for something that did not go exact the way you wanted
(self-imposed stress, indeed). Instead, let the decisions down on you, in their
own time.
It
is hard to see new exits from stress situations or to switch the perspective
when you are chronically stressed in the midst of turmoil. Only when the dust
sits down we can start to see clearly.
Here is my challenge for you:
During
the following week become a curious observer of your life, enjoy discovering
present, and even the bad parts. You will notice that you can make the most out
of reality and in a much calmer and less stressful way just because you are not
wishing for it were different.
Stop
striving, at least for a moment. Take a minute out of your busy day to enjoy
the gift of being alive, the gift of air you breathe, the gift of BEING WHO YOU
ARE!
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